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I am an amritdhari boy of 21 years of age. I love a girl and she loves me too very much. I have done a kurehat with her by kissing her intimately as she is not my wife and non-amritdhari too. I have gone to panj pyare and felt sorry for the same and retaken the amrit. but i want to ask if it is ok to love someone if we dont do anything physical before anand-karaj. I am getting really different answers from forums and blogs. I am really confused. I am suffering from OCD/Pure-O thus I am not coming to a certain decision. I have told her also about this and she said we can try to remain friends before marriage but it is difficult. Is it ok to love someone from pure heart when we have a full developed idea of marrying in our mind and not some time pass ? And I also have told my parents about that girl and they have no problem. But the question is that is it a kurehat to have love,respect and feeling for someone(nothing physical only love and respect for one another) before anand karaj, is it against the sikhi ? plz guide as I am not getting a definite answer..

I am an amritdhari boy of 21 years of age. I love a girl and she loves me too very much. I have done a kurehat with her by kissing her intimately as she is not my wife and non-amritdhari too. I have gone to panj pyare and felt sorry for the same and retaken the amrit. but i want to ask if it is ok to love someone if we dont do anything physical before anand-karaj. I am getting really different answers from forums and blogs. I am really confused. I am suffering from OCD/Pure-O thus I am not coming to a certain decision. I have told her also about this and she said we can try to remain friends before marriage but it is difficult. a bit difficult to go back to the relation as best friends from being lovers. Is it ok to love someone from pure heart when we have a full developed idea of marrying in our mind and not some time pass ? And I also have told my parents about that girl and they have no problem. But the question is that is it a kurehat to have love,respect and feeling for someone(nothing physical only love and respect for one another) before anand karaj, is it against the sikhi ? plz guide as I am not getting a definite answer..