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WJKK WJKF I... am in a dilemma. (There are so many things) 1. I can't do Paath at all - My dad wakes up from around 2 a.m. to 4 a.m. to do Paath and around that time he also goes to work. If I wake up at 12 or 1, I disturb him as the shower will make a loud noise. My dad already barely sleep 3 hours a day ( Guru di kirpa naal ). When my dad does wake up, he is loud. My dad has had a problem with Plegm (stuff that runs through your throat) so he constantly has to spit... and it is VERY LOUD. So I can't wake up anytime between 12 and 4 and by that time, the main time of Amritvela is over so I don't have any Paath or Simran done. 2. I try to wake up early -Realizing that I can't wake up from 12 to 4, I try to wake up at 6. That is hard for me because I sleep 2-5 hours a night( I have an extremely hard time trying to fall asleep, even if I do Simran or listen to Shabads. So say I fall asleep at 3 (which I did last night.. technically this morning while my dad was awake) if I wake up at 6, I only sleep for 3 hours, To shower and do Nitnem( excluding Simran) it will be about 7:30. My youngest brother will wake up at that time and he will go downstairs and start playing, yelling, or even crying. (There goes the amount of attention I pay to the Bani at that time) 3. Games Today I woke up and saw that everybody was awake, cousin,(my cousin lives with us, he is 6 going on to 7 this month), siblings, parents and uncle, (my dad was at work and still is there) and the kids are playing on the Wii game console. They had been playing for 2 hours already and everyday they usually play for about 7 to 9 hours( no exaggeration ). So I got upset that even today I couldn't even concentrate on just 5 minutes of Simran so I went downstairs and turned off the game. Well, my siblings and cousin started crying and told my mom. I expected her to back me up but instead she said that she will beat me up if I don't set up the game for the kids. 4. The general stuff at home In the house that Waheguru has placed me in can not go one entire day without saying at the very least, 20 bad words. My mom says bad words, so do my siblings . My mom says it when she gets angry with the kids and my siblings say it when they fight.(every hour at least). I promise you, try spending one day in this house, there will be at least on of the following going on for sure: *cussing *yelling *fighting *playing on the console *disobeying *Crying All this happens Every single day. So many times I come downstairs after doing Simran and all I hear is fighting, crying, AND cussing. Yesterday we were coming home from the Gurudwara... same thing. 5.I am the only child with Amrit in the house so none of the kids even attempt to do Paath or Simran. 6.so many times I have thought of running away from home because the house is a huge mess 7. I feel guilty when I can't do Paath or Simran. -Its June, I always think of June 1984 so I feel even more ashamed of myself. 8. I am a teenage girl and I can't drive. I can't escape for a while from this house for at least one more year... There are so many more things but if anybody can help me with at least this, I would be very grateful. WJKK WJKF

WJKK WJKF I... am in a dilemma. (There are so many things) 1. I can't do Paath at all - My dad wakes up from around 2 a.m. to 4 a.m. to do Paath and around that time he also goes to work. If I wake up at 12 or 1, I disturb him as the shower will make a loud noise. My dad already barely sleep 3 hours a day ( Guru di kirpa naal ). When my dad does wake up, he is loud. My dad has had a problem with Plegm (stuff that runs through your throat) so he constantly has to spit... and it is VERY LOUD. So I can't wake up anytime between 12 and 4 and by that time, the main time of Amritvela is over so I don't have any Paath or Simran done. 2. I try to wake up early -Realizing that I can't wake up from 12 to 4, I try to wake up at 6. That is hard for me because I sleep 2-5 hours a night( I have an extremely hard time trying to fall asleep, even if I do Simran or listen to Shabads. So say I fall asleep at 3 (which I did last night.. technically this morning while my dad was awake) if I wake up at 6, I only sleep for 3 hours, To shower and do Nitnem( excluding Simran) it will be about 7:30. My youngest brother will wake up at that time and he will go downstairs and start playing, yelling, or even crying. (There goes the amount of attention I pay to the Bani at that time) 3. Games Today I woke up and saw that everybody was awake, cousin,(my cousin lives with us, he is 6 going on to 7 this month), siblings, parents and uncle, (my dad was at work and still is there) and the kids are playing on the Wii game console. They had been playing for 2 hours already and everyday they usually play for about 7 to 9 hours( no exaggeration ). So I got upset that even today I couldn't even concentrate on just 5 minutes of Simran so I went downstairs and turned off the game. Well, my siblings and cousin started crying and told my mom. I expected her to back me up but instead she said that she will beat me up if I don't set up the game for the kids. 4. The general stuff at home In the house that Waheguru has placed me in can not go one entire day without saying at the very least, 20 bad words. My mom says bad words, so do my siblings . My mom says it when she gets angry with the kids and my siblings say it when they fight.(every hour at least). I promise you, try spending one day in this house, there will be at least on of the following going on for sure: *cussing *yelling *fighting *playing on the console *disobeying *Crying All this happens Every single day. So many times I come downstairs after doing Simran and all I hear is fighting, crying, AND cussing. Yesterday we were coming home from the Gurudwara... same thing. 5.I am the only child with Amrit in the house so none of the kids even attempt to do Paath or Simran. 6.so many times I have thought of running away from home because the house is a huge mess 7. I feel guilty when I can't do Paath or Simran. -Its June, I always think of June 1984 so I feel even more ashamed of myself. 8. I am a teenage girl and I can't drive. I can't escape for a while from this house for at least one more year... There are so many more things but if anybody can help me with at least this, I would be very grateful. WJKK WJKF

WJKK WJKF I... am in a dilemma. (There are so many things) 1. I can't do Paath at all all.... - My dad wakes up from around 2 a.m. to 4 a.m. to do Paath and around that time he also goes to work. If I wake up at 12 or 1, I disturb him as the shower will make a loud noise. My dad already barely sleep 3 hours a day ( Guru di kirpa naal ). When my dad does wake up, he is loud. My dad has had a problem with Plegm (stuff that runs through your throat) so he constantly has to spit... and it is VERY LOUD. So I can't wake up anytime between 12 and 4 and by that time, the main time of Amritvela is over so I don't have any Paath or Simran done. 2. I try to wake up early early.... -Realizing that I can't wake up from 12 to 4, I try to wake up at 6. That is hard for me because I sleep 2-5 hours a night( I have an extremely hard time trying to fall asleep, even if I do Simran or listen to Shabads. So say I fall asleep at 3 (which I did last night.. technically this morning while my dad was awake) if I wake up at 6, I only sleep for 3 hours, To shower and do Nitnem( excluding Simran) it will be about 7:30. My youngest brother will wake up at that time and he will go downstairs and start playing, yelling, or even crying. (There goes the amount of attention I pay to the Bani at that time) 3. Games Today Games..... -Today I woke up and saw that everybody was awake, cousin,(my cousin lives with us, he is 6 going on to 7 this month), siblings, parents and uncle, (my dad was at work and still is there) and the kids are playing on the Wii game console. They had been playing for 2 hours already and everyday they usually play for about 7 to 9 hours( no exaggeration ). So I got upset that even today I couldn't even concentrate on just 5 minutes of Simran so I went downstairs and turned off the game. Well, my siblings and cousin started crying and told my mom. I expected her to back me up but instead she said that she will beat me up if I don't set up the game for the kids. 4. The general stuff at home In home.... -In the house that Waheguru has placed me in can not go one entire day without saying at the very least, 20 bad words. My mom says bad words, so do my siblings . My mom says it when she gets angry with the kids and my siblings say it when they fight.(every hour at least). I promise you, try spending one day in this house, there will be at least on of the following going on for sure: *cussing *yelling *fighting *playing on the console *disobeying *Crying All this happens Every single day. So many times I come downstairs after doing Simran and all I hear is fighting, crying, AND cussing. Yesterday we were coming home from the Gurudwara... same thing. 5.I am the only child with Amrit in the house so none of the kids even attempt to do Paath or Simran. Simran..... 6.so many times I have thought of running away from home because the house is a huge mess mess.... 7. I feel guilty when I can't do Paath or Simran. -Its June, I always think of June 1984 so I feel even more ashamed of myself. myself..... 8. I am a teenage girl and I can't drive. I -I can't escape for a while from this house for at least one more year... There are so many more things but if anybody can help me with at least this, I would be very grateful. WJKK WJKF