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I have a couple questions. What does Gurbani say about verbal abuse and hurting peoples feelings out of jealousy and insecurity. There is a female relative who has even verbally abusing me since I was 13. I know for a fact that she has done this out of deep rooted jealousy and insecurity that she had from way before. She doesn’t see the wrong in what she does. I love her son and daughter who are my niece and nephew very much but she still doesn’t care. She still lets her jealousy take over.

I have always felt scared to defend myself because my mother, brother, and I have live in their house. But honestly, the biggest reason is I’m afraid of Waheguru. I’m afraid I’ll be judged for doing one thing wrong while she won’t be judged for any of her as actions. I have to answer Waheguru one day. Her hateful and spiteful actions have made me doubt myself a lot and have really affected my self esteem over the years. I feel like it’s gotten to the point that my patience is wearing thin. I also understand that she’s very insecure and doesn’t like herself. I feel for her but it doesn’t mean she can hurt other people because of it. She has no right to do. I was wondering if it’s wrong to stand up for myself even a little bit.

What does Gurbani say about it? I don’t want to physically or verbally do anything wrong. I have been tolerating this for a very long time but she just won’t stop. I feel like me not doing anything about it makes her think what she’s doing is right and that it’s ok to treat someone like that.

I was wondering would it be a sin for me to stand up for myself even a little bit? Whenever I think about it, I start getting very paranoid and start getting very fearful. I read somewhere that our Gurus wanted us to be nice to all but also stand up to injustice. This has really impacted me negatively over the years. I don’t want to hurt her feelings but just help her realize what she’s doing is not write.

My mother tells me to be patient but I have been patient for the past 10 years putting up with this. I have gone thru very tragic stuff in my life besides this and have never complained but this situation is something that hinders me from even stepping out of my room when she’s around.

Will I be the wrong one if I stand up for myself even a little bit? We girls aren’t supposed to say anything to anyone but I feel Waheguru gave me the strength to deal with this but I’m too scared of being judged. Can you please answer my questions and give me any advice on how to deal with this? Thank you so much.

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh

I have a couple questions. What does Gurbani say about verbal abuse and hurting peoples feelings out of jealousy and insecurity. There is a female relative who has even verbally abusing me since I was 13. I know for a fact that she has done this out of deep rooted jealousy and insecurity that she had from way before. She doesn’t see the wrong in what she does. I love her son and daughter who are my niece and nephew very much but she still doesn’t care. She still lets her jealousy take over.

I have always felt scared to defend myself because my mother, brother, and I have live in their house. But honestly, the biggest reason is I’m afraid of Waheguru. I’m afraid I’ll be judged for doing one thing wrong while she won’t be judged for any of her as actions. I have to answer Waheguru one day. Her hateful and spiteful actions have made me doubt myself a lot and have really affected my self esteem over the years. I feel like it’s gotten to the point that my patience is wearing thin. I also understand that she’s very insecure and doesn’t like herself. I feel for her but it doesn’t mean she can hurt other people because of it. She has no right to do. I was wondering if it’s wrong to stand up for myself even a little bit.

What does Gurbani say about it? I don’t want to physically or verbally do anything wrong. I have been tolerating this for a very long time but she just won’t stop. I feel like me not doing anything about it makes her think what she’s doing is right and that it’s ok to treat someone like that.

I was wondering would it be a sin for me to stand up for myself even a little bit? Whenever I think about it, I start getting very paranoid and start getting very fearful. I read somewhere that our Gurus wanted us to be nice to all but also stand up to injustice. This has really impacted me negatively over the years. I don’t want to hurt her feelings but just help her realize what she’s doing is not write.

My mother tells me to be patient but I have been patient for the past 10 years putting up with this. I have gone thru very tragic stuff in my life besides this and have never complained but this situation is something that hinders me from even stepping out of my room when she’s around.

Will I be the wrong one if I stand up for myself even a little bit? We girls aren’t supposed to say anything to anyone but I feel Waheguru gave me the strength to deal with this but I’m too scared of being judged. Can you please answer my questions and give me any advice on how to deal with this? Thank you so much.

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh

I have a couple questions. What does Gurbani say about verbal abuse and hurting peoples feelings out of jealousy and insecurity. There is a female relative who has even verbally abusing me since I was 13. I know for a fact that she has done this out of deep rooted jealousy and insecurity that she had from way before. She doesn’t see the wrong in what she does. I love her son and daughter who are my niece and nephew very much but she still doesn’t care. She still lets her jealousy take over.

I have always felt scared to defend myself because my mother, brother, and I have live in their house. But honestly, the biggest reason is I’m afraid of Waheguru. I’m afraid I’ll be judged for doing one thing wrong while she won’t be judged for any of her as actions. I have to answer Waheguru one day. Her hateful and spiteful actions have made me doubt myself a lot and have really affected my self esteem over the years. I feel like it’s gotten to the point that my patience is wearing thin. I also understand that she’s very insecure and doesn’t like herself. I feel for her but it doesn’t mean she can hurt other people because of it. She has no right to do. I was wondering if it’s wrong to stand up for myself even a little bit.

What does Gurbani say about it? I don’t want to physically or verbally do anything wrong. I have been tolerating this for a very long time but she just won’t stop. I feel like me not doing anything about it makes her think what she’s doing is right and that it’s ok to treat someone like that.

I was wondering would it be a sin for me to stand up for myself even a little bit? Whenever I think about it, I start getting very paranoid and start getting very fearful. I read somewhere that our Gurus wanted us to be nice to all but also stand up to injustice. This has really impacted me negatively over the years. I don’t want to hurt her feelings but just help her realize what she’s doing is not write.

My mother tells me to be patient but I have been patient for the past 10 years putting up with this. I have gone thru very tragic stuff in my life besides this and have never complained but this situation is something that hinders me from even stepping out of my room when she’s around.

Will I be the wrong one if I stand up for myself even a little bit? We girls aren’t supposed to say anything to anyone but I feel Waheguru gave me the strength to deal with this but I’m too scared of being judged. Can you please answer my questions and give me any advice on how to deal with this? Thank you so much.

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh