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Im turning 40 early next year, I have been trying to follow the sikhi religion for twenty years now. I just feel lost, and I don't know what to do, I was very happy until around two years ago, when I got married, my wife brought a lot of troubles with her and I still stood by her.

Now there is a rift between my family and hers, all I want is a simple life, I believe in sikhi, and the ritual we did when getting married.

But how much can a man take before you need to let go, I just feel miserable and I don't understand why waheguru is making me go through this.

I'm now at the point of drinking far too much and causing trouble to my parents.

I don't want to do this , I just want a happy home with a wife and kids , I'm not asking for much , I just don't understand anymore

If anyone has some advice, please share.

Thank you, waheguru waheguru waheguru waheguru waheguru waheguru waheguru

Im turning 40 early next year, I have been trying to follow the sikhi religion for twenty years now. I just feel lost, and I don't know what to do, I was very happy until around two years ago, when I got married, my wife brought a lot of troubles with her and I still stood by her.

Now there is a rift between my family and hers, all I want is a simple life, I believe in sikhi, and the ritual we did when getting married.

But how much can a man take before you need to let go, I just feel miserable and I don't understand why waheguru is making me go through this.

I'm now at the point of drinking far too much and causing trouble to my parents.

I don't want to do this , I just want a happy home with a wife and kids , I'm not asking for much , I just don't understand anymore

If anyone has some advice, please share.

Thank you, waheguru waheguru waheguru waheguru waheguru waheguru waheguru

Im turning 40 early next year, I have been trying to follow the sikhi religion for twenty years now. I just feel lost, and I don't know what to do, I was very happy until around two years ago, when I got married, my wife brought a lot of troubles with her and I still stood by her.

Now there is a rift between my family and hers, all I want is a simple life, I believe in sikhi, and the ritual we did when getting married.

But how much can a man take before you need to let go, I just feel miserable and I don't understand why waheguru is making me go through this.

I'm now at the point of drinking far too much and causing trouble to my parents.

I don't want to do this , I just want a happy home with a wife and kids , I'm not asking for much , I just don't understand anymore

If anyone has some advice, please share.

Thank you, waheguru waheguru waheguru waheguru waheguru waheguru waheguru

Im turning 40 early next year, I have been trying to follow the sikhi religion for twenty years now. I just feel lost, and I don't know what to do, I was very happy until around two years ago, when I got married, my wife brought a lot of troubles with her and I still stood by her.

Now there is a rift between my family and hers, all I want is a simple life, I believe in sikhi, and the ritual we did when getting married.

But how much can a man take before you need to let go, I just feel miserable and I don't understand why waheguru is making me go through this.

I'm now at the point of drinking far too much and causing trouble to my parents.

I don't want to do this , I just want a happy home with a wife and kids , I'm not asking for much , I just don't understand anymore

If anyone has some advice, please share.

Thank you, waheguru waheguru waheguru waheguru waheguru waheguru waheguru

Some more details, so like I said I got married two years ago, she moved from a different city to mine.

This is where all the problems started , when I'd go work she would argue with my parents, we found out she was taking un- prescribed drugs mostly anti depressants. Also found out she was drinking and is a alcoholic.

She also seems mentally ill (she still hasn't told me what) but from my experience it sounds a lot like bi-polar). She just out of the blue starts having fits and such which I stood by her.

It got to the point two months in we moved out thought maybe the stress of being with my parents is stirring her up.

Once we moved out more freedom, more instances of drinking, the she stole from boots for no reason, and then cought her applying for one of those escort sites.

After all this she went back to her own house , she would come back to vist every month sometimes pleasant other times she would have me arrested and all sorts.

It's totally messed up my head, there is plenty more, but I do know what to do , if I talk about divorce she talks about sucide. I just feel trapped and I don't know why out of three brothers I'm the only one who got married to a sikh girl, I do paath as much as I can and try and be a decent person.

I just don't understand why I have to go through this and I still do at least japji sahib everyday.

Like I said I'm lost, also as you can tell there will be no reconciliation with my family and hers, from not telling us the truth about her from the start.