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WJKK WJKF The main point of this question is to ask if it is ok to apologize even if you aren't wrong. Now I understand why that would be a dumb question but let me explain! My parents are already very upset with me because I've fallen in love with someone from a lower caste. I don't believe in the caste system and they shouldn't either because all of us have taken Amrit. This past Sunday, I was doing Seva at the Gurdwara with a few of my friends when some random boys came and stood next to us. They weren't doing anything (no seva/ just talking and laughing). My dad came up to me and said go away from here just stop doing Seva. I asked why amd he said "because of the boys". I told my dad to tell the bous to go away since they weren't doing anything while my friends and I were runnjng around doing Seva wherever we could. At first he said ok and he told the guys to leave but he was starting to get mad at me. Then he came up to me again and told me to leave. I asked why and he said "because I said so". I said no, I'm not doing anything wrong so I'm not leaving. At this point, he was at the verge of yelling. He said" are you my parent or am I your parent. Stop doing Seva and leave or I will leave." I stood firm amd said I'm not leaving because I didn't do anything wrong. He left then came to check if I was still there. He saw me still doing Seva and he got really mad and decided to just drop everything and go home. My sister called him so he could come back and pick us up. In the car he yelled and cussed at me (along with my mother) . I didn't yell back, I tried to calmly explain how I wasn't wrong. He said "how many boys will I stop from doing Seva (although those guys weren't doing Seva. The committee members will get mad at me. " I believe that my "dad" should have taken my side instead of leaving and being afraid of what people would say. Ifbhe supports me, nobody will say anything. Plus everybody else is happy and praises me for doing Seva, it's only my parents who freak out. Guys will stare at girls whether they do Seva or not. Instead of stopping me from doing Seva, they should stop perverted guys, regardless of how many there are. I refuse to apologize because in this case, I'm not wrong. I don't give fake apologies. My parents are threatening to kick me out of the house amd haven't spoken to me ever since. All they do is cuss me out indirectly. I feel like apologizing will make them feel like they were correct all along. It will boost their ego. This is why I refuse to apologize. All throughout history. Sikhs have spoken up against falsehood. Lies have never been accepted amongst true Sikhs. Our martyrs accepted death but never lied. Sikhs have been brutally murdered or beaten but never asked for forgiveness when they were correct. So, why should i ask my parents to forgive me?? I haven't done anything wrong. Yet they refuse to listen to my reasoning and have in fact just stopped talking to me.

WJKK WJKF The main point of this question is to ask if it is ok to apologize even if you aren't wrong. Now I understand why that would be a dumb question but let me explain! My parents are already very upset with me because I've fallen in love with someone from a lower caste. I don't believe in the caste system and they shouldn't either because all of us have taken Amrit. This past Sunday, I was doing Seva at the Gurdwara with a few of my friends when some random boys came and stood next to us. They weren't doing anything (no seva/ just talking and laughing). My dad came up to me and said go away from here just stop doing Seva. I asked why amd he said "because of the boys". I told my dad to tell the bous to go away since they weren't doing anything while my friends and I were runnjng around doing Seva wherever we could. At first he said ok and he told the guys to leave but he was starting to get mad at me. Then he came up to me again and told me to leave. I asked why and he said "because I said so". I said no, I'm not doing anything wrong so I'm not leaving. At this point, he was at the verge of yelling. He said" are you my parent or am I your parent. Stop doing Seva and leave or I will leave." I stood firm amd said I'm not leaving because I didn't do anything wrong. He left then came to check if I was still there. He saw me still doing Seva and he got really mad and decided to just drop everything and go home. My sister called him so he could come back and pick us up. In the car he yelled and cussed at me (along with my mother) . I didn't yell back, I tried to calmly explain how I wasn't wrong. He said "how many boys will I stop from doing Seva (although those guys weren't doing Seva. The committee members will get mad at me. " I believe that my "dad" should have taken my side instead of leaving and being afraid of what people would say. Ifbhe supports me, nobody will say anything. Plus everybody else is happy and praises me for doing Seva, it's only my parents who freak out. Guys will stare at girls whether they do Seva or not. Instead of stopping me from doing Seva, they should stop perverted guys, regardless of how many there are. I refuse to apologize because in this case, I'm not wrong. I don't give fake apologies. My parents are threatening to kick me out of the house amd haven't spoken to me ever since. All they do is cuss me out indirectly. I feel like apologizing will make them feel like they were correct all along. It will boost their ego. This is why I refuse to apologize. All throughout history. Sikhs have spoken up against falsehood. Lies have never been accepted amongst true Sikhs. Our martyrs accepted death but never lied. Sikhs have been brutally murdered or beaten but never asked for forgiveness when they were correct. So, why should i ask my parents to forgive me?? I haven't done anything wrong. Yet they refuse to listen to my reasoning and have in fact just stopped talking to me.