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I'm really limited on my friends list on facebook and in fact delete people I don't think are good sangat for me. For safety reasons, I never add anyone I don't know in person. I'm constantly having people send me messages, always young men, who want to talk, "marry me", say hi, be my friend, whatever. I used to block people, and I didn't want them looking at my pictures all day. Now I think that was harsh and maybe I should just tell people "I don't add anyone I don't know"- but will even that be a bad idea because it could start a conversation? Or I could just ignore it. Now I feel like I'm being mean so I don't know what's really appropriate. I have four messages in my inbox from young men right now that I dont know what to do about and I don't like it.
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I'm really Just a minor thing i want some input on. I limited on my friends list on facebook and in fact delete people I don't think to people who are good really connected to me and I feel are sangat for me. For safety reasons, that will bring me in a positive direction. I never add anyone I i don't know in person. I'm constantly having people send me messages, always young men, person because of safety reasons. I get a lot of friend requests from strangers who want to talk, "marry me", me" or just say hi, be my friend, whatever. hi. I used to block people, and I didn't want them looking at my pictures all day. people because it made me uncomfortable that a stranger wants to marry me! Now I think that was harsh that's mean and maybe I i should just tell people "I don't i dont add anyone I don't know"- i dont know for real? but will i feel like just even that be a bad idea because it saying that could start a conversation? Or I could just conversation and end up going down a path i dont want. if i ignore it. Now I it, i feel like I'm being mean so I don't know what's really appropriate. I have four messages in my inbox from young men right now that I dont that people will just be waiting. Especially if we live in the same town and they see me around at the Gurdwara wondering why i didn't add them. I guess i want to know what to do about and I don't like it. is a good balance of being kind, but not breaking my values of what's important to me which is not adding strangers to my circle of trust. There's a friend request pending now and a bunch of unanswered messages, including some complements from random guys. I'm stuck in an uncomfortable space of not wanting to be rude and not wanting to talk to them.
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Just a minor thing i want some input on. I limited on my friends list on facebook to people who are really connected to me and I feel are sangat that will bring me in a positive direction. I never add anyone i don't know in person because of safety reasons. I get a lot of friend requests from strangers who want to talk, "marry me" or just say hi. I used to block people because it made me uncomfortable that a stranger wants to marry me! Now I think that's mean and maybe i should just tell people i dont add anyone i dont know for real? but i feel like just even saying that could start a conversation and end up going down a path i dont want. if i ignore it, i feel that people will just be waiting. Especially if we live in the same town and they see me around at the Gurdwara wondering why i didn't add them. I guess i want to know what is a good balance of being kind, but not breaking my values of what's important to me which is not adding strangers to my circle of trust. There's a friend request pending now and a bunch of unanswered messages, including some complements from random guys. I'm stuck in an uncomfortable space of not wanting to be rude and not wanting to talk to them.
update: okay so i tried just saying that I don't add people I don't know, and the guy sent me a message saying that we have mutual friends in common, and he normally doesn't talk to girls, and he sent me a copy of one of my own profile photos (of me wearing a dastar) saying this is why he wants to friend me... This is pretty much exactly what i wanted to avoid!!!