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lost soul and need some guidance

asked 2012-04-03 21:23:22 -0500

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updated 2012-04-18 12:09:15 -0500

Guruka Singh gravatar image

waheguru ji ka khalsa waheguru ji ki fateh..mein thodi guidance chahidi hai..i have done a lot of bad things in my life...i am a 22 year old sikh girl..i was send to u.s.a to study hard and my family was in india...i somehow went into a relationship with a sikh guy...my intention was not bad ever..i trully loved him but i had some physical relation with him...he left me after some time..i begged him not to leave me and marry me..but he did'nt care..i can't tell my family of what i did...i am struggling..i am failing my school and sick all the time..i have huge depression..should i die?..what should i do ?

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answered 2012-11-27 05:36:51 -0500

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hey there i can understand you, i have also done something in my past which might be bad for someone and nothing for other....but the main thing is i never wanted it in my past, i never wanted it to be with me...but dear you gotta understand we all make mistakes, i also can't accpet what i have done..the person i wanted to be forever but what i have become now, i am still a girl with good values but somewhere we fail, sometimes it is our bad karma that we act as fools and are left with regrets...no one is without regret we all make different kind of mistakes and feel bad. but you have to understand that we are human beings and we make mistakes. you were deceived , you never wanted to get physical with anyone before marriage maybe, but because you loved that guy so he took advantage of your love, this is where we girls are wrong, if we don't want to do it we should never, if the guy wants to leave because we don't want to do it, we should tell them leave right now instead of tomorrow. but what i wanna tell you is that i have been where you have been , but i have now taught myself that i am a human being and I can make mistakes and learn. Bhai Joga Singh Ji such a huge Sikh warrior were also about to go the wrong way in life, idk whether you know that Sikh story, but if such a religious Sikh warrior can fall in life why can't we?? Guru Gobind Singh Ji had to guard him otherwise they were gonna commit a huge mistake. So relax dear, I am another example who couldn't accept herself but now i have. I can't change the past but can pray for a better future. what are your worries about??? is there something related to the present and future that you are concerned about?? Tc

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I agree with you Jeeo...we do make mistakes...and the only way to move forward is to accept it...girls ask for love but guys interpret it in their own ways....anyways...god bless us all...tc jeeo...

unknownkaur gravatar imageunknownkaur ( 2012-11-27 07:52:09 -0500 )edit
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answered 2012-04-04 17:54:33 -0500

Guruka Singh gravatar image

Bhen JI - Waheguru Ji ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji ki Fateh!

The past is gone and it will not come back. Let it go. Those who live in the past shall have no future. The future is created in the present. Now is the time to be honest with yourself and come out of your guilt. You cannot be happy in a life of regret and commotion. Work on yourself with devotion and grace. Make yourself so peaceful, joyful and radiant that God Himself will love to come and sit in your lap. Then all your desires will be pre-fulfilled before you even know what it is that you want.

Have you seen this video? How To Overcome Low Self Esteem

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answered 2012-04-05 20:21:31 -0500

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thanku bhaiji, my problem is that i am not able to accept what i have did...its just ruining my life..i cry almost the whole day everyday..i have no interaction with people because i feel ashamed...i feel like dieing everyday but always stops myself thinking about my parents...i tried doing gurbani but than i feel that i had made waheguru go so far from me that i can't reach them anymore..i just want to be the same which i used to be before all this happened..i tried it alot of times..but than i gave up..

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answered 2012-04-06 11:24:07 -0500

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Now is the time that you must make a choice. You must choose whether to bathe in your emotions, depression and guilt or to bathe in the healing nectar of the Guru. You cannot do both. It is one or the other.

You are not a victim. You are a KAUR! Be that. Now is the time to show your strength and you cannot do that by feeling sorry for yourself. Take your bundle of pain and lovingly wrap it up in the sacred cloth of your devotion.

Do your mathe tek and keep your head down. Consciously take your bundle of pain and give it to your Guru. Tell Him "I do not want this any more. I do not need this any more. It is not helping me to become who I must be so that I can serve you completely every day. I am giving it to you. It is yours now. Do with it what you will. It is no longer mine."

All love, .....G

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answered 2012-04-06 15:30:45 -0500

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bhaiji,but if all what i did is impacting my life in present and future...how would i will be able to overcome..?

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answered 2012-04-11 16:50:40 -0500

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Every action has a sequence and a consequence. You can not go back in time. What you can do is escape the burden of the past by living in the present. Speak and act consciously NOW so that you do not cause any sequence and consequence you do not want to have to deal with later.

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answered 2012-06-07 21:31:52 -0500

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waeguruji ka khalsa..waheguru ji ki fateh..i am back again..i am dealing with a lot of mental conflict...i always have this thought that my life is ruined and i am not understanding the honor of god..i do want to live a happy life..andsettle down..is it still possible..with my horrible past?

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answered 2012-11-22 17:35:53 -0500

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Sigh! Can understand what you are saying but think about it, is crying and thinking about the past going to solve anything? You need to let go, know its easier said than done but you MUST TRY! Focus on your present and let go off the past. You will definitely find someone who will make your life beautiful but trapping yourself in a room isn't going to take you anywhere so please cut it out and just focus on the present. If you need to talk to someone just to get rid of the thoughts, we are all here :-). Will try our best to help you overcome this.

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