Confused and depressed about my rehat

answered 2014-08-11 12:50:15 -0500

Anonymous sikh
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To be honest, you will encounter 2 groups of Sikhs; when they will be answering your question whether you should trim your beard or not? One group will use religion as a basis to their argument that you should maintain a full grown beard, the other group will say whatever satisfies you internally. Honestly I trim my beard as well, whatever decision you decide to take should be your own decision and don't get swayed by other people's decision. I too encountered the same problem you did at once, so I know where your coming from, I totally understand your dilemma, whatever decision you may take be sure you decide at your own free will not by any person's thinking or any person using religion as a basis for you to follow their path.

answered 2014-08-12 11:09:39 -0500

Guruka Singh
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You say "I have never been able to make great friends I can't talk to girls I think they will mock me regarding my hair " This is not about your hairs. This is about your self-esteem. The first relationship you must establish is your relationship with yourself. You won't have true friends (sadhsangat) and you won't have worthwhile relationships with girls until you establish a deeper relationship with yourself. You will not find out who you are from other people. You cannot please other people. You can, however, explore your own identity and your inner relationship with that. Go for these answers: Who am I? What are my core values? Do I love myself, and if not, why not?

Then the rest will unfold for you naturally. First things first. It's not about your hair.