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asked 2012-10-19 05:13:23 -0600

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dear sir

i want to know can a amritdhaari sikh have a girlfrind.

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Yes amritdhari sikh can have a boyfriend or girlfriend.

Anonymous sikh gravatar imageAnonymous sikh ( 2012-11-27 09:53:20 -0600 )edit

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answered 2012-10-19 06:08:54 -0600

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lol..

please answer this question by your self keeping Satguru GObind SIngh Maharaj and our mission in mind?

Karanjit Singh

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answered 2012-11-29 08:20:53 -0600

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Waheguru Ji ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji ki Fathe!

I want you people to think of this, why is it so important to have a girlfriend or a boyfriend. I personally reckon it is a complete waste of time. I mean really, come on. We are Lions and Lionesses. Seriously! I'm pretty sure there are other things to be worrying about other than the opposite sex like oh, I donno, GOD for instance.

If one is connected with God and is indulged within the Shabad of the Guru I'm sure that that haing girlfriend or a boyfriend would be last thing on there mind. Actually, it wouldn't even be in their mind.

And if your saying that it the 21st century its kool to be in a relationship then why is it that you are not saying that oh its the 21st century lets blend in with the crowd and and cut or hair and become westernized and forget all the amazing kurbania done by our brave Sikh sisters and brothers and just forget all of the teachings of the Guru? I mean COME ON! Seriously people, think about it. This life is to worship God and to become one with God. Why don't you just leave the whole soul mate thing to God who gave you this life and has everything planed out for you just chill and mediate every thing is going to be kool. Oh and I 100% agree with PeaceHappinessSikhism.

Oh and even if you do happen to fall in love with a Gurshikh girl or a guy you should talk to them and tell your parents that you like them you parents need to know or things can go bad but most of all just trust your guru and don't do anything that you are going to regret. The consequences are not kool.

Sorry if I caused offence that was not my intention.

Bhul Chook muaf.

Waheguru Ji ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji ki Fathe!

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answered 2012-10-23 20:51:47 -0600

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An Amritdhari Sikh cannot have a girlfriend because you are to consider every girl as your sister. Have peace in the mind and love your Guru. :) Whoever she is please do the right thing don't do anything that you are going to regret.

Ask your self, What would Guru Gobind Singh Ji say...

PeaceHappinessSikhism :)

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It says every Sikh Amritdhari Kaur is you sister, never said anything about non-amritdhari Sikhs, or non-Sikhs

Sardar Sukhmeet Singh gravatar imageSardar Sukhmeet Singh ( 2012-12-03 17:30:45 -0600 )edit
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What is wrong with you people saying that its only amritdhari Kaurs that you are supposed to consider as sisters! I mean seriously! If the Singhs considered only amritdhari Kaurs as their sisters then they would not have risked their lives to free the Hindu women from the Mugals! Think people!

Kaurageouswarrior1699 gravatar imageKaurageouswarrior1699 ( 2012-12-03 18:10:45 -0600 )edit

Took the words right out of my mouth thanks Kaurageouswarrior1699.

PeaceHappinessSikhism gravatar imagePeaceHappinessSikhism ( 2012-12-06 01:30:04 -0600 )edit

you have to be practical its the 21st century its normal to have boyfriend/girlfriend relationship.

Anonymous sikh gravatar imageAnonymous sikh ( 2013-02-27 12:19:25 -0600 )edit
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answered 2012-10-24 11:56:14 -0600

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updated 2012-10-24 12:01:02 -0600

i think this a very strange and stupid answer that a amritdhari sikh can not have girlfriend and has to consider every girl as his sister.it means an amritdhari sikh should not get married because every girl is his sister.i think it is very natural that a young man get attracted towards a young girl.but being a sikh he has to behave like a mature man and tell his and her parents everything. if they are not ready to accept their love then he is free to take another decision, but he must try not to hurt anyone. but if his love is true then he should trust in Waheguru and do what he has to do. today sikhism is losing its respect and glory because of such people who don't know anything about sikhism and tell other people illogical things.if sikhism ever get died out, such people will be responsible for that. sikhism is based on logic, everything that is explained without logic does not belong to sikhism.this is sikhism's strength what other religion don't have. if we don't explain sikh religion's teachings with logic than we will be like other religion which preach useless things. i have been thinking about to form a Forum where i can ansewr all the question and i think i have to do this as soon as possible otherwise such people, who are telling other people wrong things about sikhism will destroy sikhism. i request all the people who read this to give me suggestions and support. i have lot to say , i think we can get the sikhism its respect back if we all use our brain obey our guru sahibaan's teachings.my skype ID is ajitjeet (jalandhar, punjab), thanks.

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answered 2012-10-24 15:22:39 -0600

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Vaheguru Ji ka Khalsa, Vaheguru Ji ki Fathe!

Perhaps I did not explain my self properly, the way I look at this is that a Sikh is a person who is noble and does seva and is always honest and brave. I know how much I know about Sikhism and please do not say that I am trying to destroy Sikhism. Because I am a SIKH do you understand! (I 'm pretty sure that ajitsingh's comment was aimed at me. if not i am sorry).

If we look back to when Guru Gobind Singh Ji created the Khalsa there was not one Sikh that had a girl friend! They were either married or considered every Kaur as their sister! I mean seriously! We are Khalsa.

"If we notice a Gursikh, who has taken Amrit of Guru Sahib and becomes so attracted to the member of opposite sex that he (or she) can only think of her and can't live without her, then surely such person was never in love with Guru Sahib."

http://www.sikhsangat.com/index.php?/topic/61716-amritdhari-love-marriage/

Click on the link above and you'll see what I mean!

Vir Ji please don't jump to conclusions so fast. I am really sorry for causing you such discomfort for my answer.

Bhul chuck mauaf.

Vaheguru Ji ka Khalsa, Vaheguru Ji ki Fathe!

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Good on ya sista! At least there's someone who gets it.

Kaurageouswarrior1699 gravatar imageKaurageouswarrior1699 ( 2012-12-03 18:11:40 -0600 )edit
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Thnx I sometimes think that I'm the only one.

PeaceHappinessSikhism gravatar imagePeaceHappinessSikhism ( 2012-12-06 01:30:48 -0600 )edit
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answered 2012-10-27 16:31:38 -0600

ajit singh gravatar image

waheguru ji ka khalsa sri waheguru ji ki fateh This is a topic which needs a lot of time to be explained so i don't think that this short answer can clear up every aspect of this topic. Because we are here to learn something about Sikhism and share our openions and experience with sikh community so i would like to highlight some points that could affect sikhism in someway. After clicking on this link http://www.sikhsangat.com/index.php?/topic/61716-amritdhari-love-marriage/ and after reading the answeres on a question from a girl who was in love with some amritdhari sikh boy. But they did not belong to same caste that,s why girl's parents were against their love. Now there are two problems, first...Is caste system importsnt to us than Sikhi? second...Is a amritdhari sikhboy or girl has the right to fall in love with someone.

As far as i know there is no place for caste system in sikhism.According to me if you believe in cast system you are not a sikh and.Inspite of being a sikh if you believe in such system you should convert to a religion that favours cast system.Because sri Guru Nanak Dev ji spent his whole life fighting against caste system and inequality in the society. That's why he started "SANGAT and PANGAT" pratha. And later srai Guru Gobind Singh Ji created "KHALSA PANTH" and one of the fundamental principles of the Khalsa panth was not to believe in caste system. Sri Guru Gobind Singh ji honoured khalsa panth with new identity and raised to a highst level that a humanbeing can ever achieve in his life. But people who disobeying sri Guru Nanak Dev ji and sri Guru Gobind Singh ji by believing in custom like caste system, how can they call themselves sikhs. So now we have to choose, what is important to us Sikhi or custom like caste system, we can't have both. I have posted a new question "Csate system in Sikhism good or bad? what do you think?" i want to know your views on this topic.Later we will discuss this topic in detail.

Now we come to secod point... I think to love somebody is not prohibited in Sikhism.Every humanbeing is made of same material and five senses.As we grow up our body changes, in the young age our needs requirements and demands are different than we had in our childhood and when we get older our body demands different things from us according to our physical and mentaly health. Now question is...Should we do everything what our body and mind requires from us i would say no.Earlier i talked about Mentaly health, this is the main thing. but now question is how can we keep our mind healthy? A healthy mind can be discribed and defined differently by different religions. One more question... can we over come our desires for ever ... (more)

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I do understnad what you are trying to get at but I still disagree. I am an Amritdhari Sikh and I still believe that having a boyfriend or a girlfriend is wrong. Please read this site: http://www.sikhitothemax.com/Rehat.asp?ID=76 Thank you :) PeaceHappinessSikhism

PeaceHappinessSikhism gravatar imagePeaceHappinessSikhism ( 2012-10-27 17:43:19 -0600 )edit
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answered 2012-11-27 07:53:23 -0600

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Yeah the time has changed, few decades back in India love marriage was taken as a huge issue but now it is sort of normal, i mean back then in Guru's times arranged marriages used to occur, girls used to get married at a very early age so did the guys..now guys and girls go after their higher education and career and while all this they can fall for someone and at the end our motive is to find a nice life partner not to fool around, so according to me either it is an amritdhari person or non amritdhari, falling for someone and getting married is not bad. but we should try not to get physical before marriage, that is wrong. idk whether it is true or not but i have heard that in Sri Guru Granth sahib ji, the love story of sassi punnu i guess has been mentioned, i mean love should be pure and if it is for opposite sex no worries.

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answered 2012-11-29 08:26:07 -0600

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well i think that it is ok to meet someone put some time and get married but going out to the movies just for fun and all, maybe these things are wrong. i mean it is ok to find a soul mate but just having a gf or bf just for fun is wrong according to me. we should be looking for a man or woman to get married. the rest no offence to the OP as idk your intentions whether you want a girl to get married with or just as other people want a gf or bf.

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answered 2012-12-03 17:39:17 -0600

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I want you to know that the answer to your question will just have debates because not one person truly knows the answer to this question; but I want you to follow what you believe, before starting to get a gf or a bf, remember the 4 rules you promised to Guru Ji, because these 4 rules are the ones most people break when they get a gf or bf. You do remember the 4 rules in order 1. Don't cut your hairs!, this is the rule most people break to get a gf or a bf 2. Don't do adultery, the second most common law to break for romance 3. Drugs, this is one way to get someone to lose, as doing drugs will make you want to do #2 4. Don't eat ritualistic meat, such as Halal, or Kosher, I know that this has almost no effect, but just for reminder

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the first and the last three many not happen but the 2nd one most likely 98% of people in a relationship will end up breaking that rule. We have to acknowledge the reality majority of people in a relationship end up having a physical relationship, that is going to happen no matter what.

Anonymous sikh gravatar imageAnonymous sikh ( 2012-12-03 17:58:33 -0600 )edit

I expected most people to break the first rule of not cutting their hairs

Sardar Sukhmeet Singh gravatar imageSardar Sukhmeet Singh ( 2012-12-03 18:03:29 -0600 )edit
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I have come across many turbaned Sikh men being in a relationship with Sikh women.

Anonymous sikh gravatar imageAnonymous sikh ( 2012-12-03 18:06:30 -0600 )edit
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Well tell me brother are they as lit up as the Singh Soorme that don't have a girlfriend?

Kaurageouswarrior1699 gravatar imageKaurageouswarrior1699 ( 2012-12-03 18:13:11 -0600 )edit
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To all the Singhs and Singhnia that don't have a girlfriend or a boyfriend I salute you and may God bless you!

Kaurageouswarrior1699 gravatar imageKaurageouswarrior1699 ( 2012-12-03 18:14:49 -0600 )edit

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