AKJ Amrit Sanchaar

answered 2012-08-31 17:25:09 -0500

KAUR
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"if a person is already married when he/she takes Amrit, and the husband or wife has not taken Amrit, the should can not have a sexual relationship until both become Amritdhaari. If the couple, have sexual intercourse, they have both broken their rehat just as a clean pot becomes dirty if it touches a dirty one. A husband and wife should take Amrit together, and thus keep their rehat intact. It is not sufficient, for just the husband OR wife to take Amrit upon marriage." This is direct quote from Damdami Taksal website.

I think if a women takes amrit and husband does not then can you guarantee that they will not have physical relationship? NO, they will. Both of them have to understand that why it is important.

Guru ji knows everything. If your mom's friends sister wanted to take amrit and could not because of her husband and then she died, it does not mean that she will get into 84 lakhs joons. Maybe Guru ji took her so that she can be born again as a human and take amrit before marriage.

We are human beings and cannot tell what GUruji's plans are for us. We just have to accept them. Nothing happens in this world without Guruji's will

answered 2012-09-01 12:54:53 -0500

kanwaljit.singh
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Having an Khande di Pahul is a personal decision but in marriage it's one soul in two bodies. The better half thing. So your future depends on your spouse's actions too. It has been advised that both partners should be ready. And sometimes the Panj Pyare impose it. Amritdhari jiwan is our keerat. If we go and have meet Waheguru, have Darshan, it is His Will and can come independent of whether you have had Amrit or not.

answered 2012-11-06 10:51:05 -0500

unknownkaur
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What can you do in situations where the girl is an amritdhari and has to marry someone who is a non-amritdhari and perhaps drinks as well. I'm asking this question because even marriage is under the hukam of Waheguru Ji so what can be done in those circumstances. As both the girl and the guy should compromise but in this situation its a question about taking amrit.

I hope this makes sense...please guide!

Waheguru Ji Bless us all

answered 2012-11-06 13:16:41 -0500

Karanjit Singh
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updated 2012-11-06 13:19:36 -0500

sister,

everything has been said...she can take Amrit if she promise Satguru ji (5 PYare) that she wont have sex..

what to do? She can ask 5 Pyare to do Ardas for her as her "karam rishta husband" is not willing to follow the sikh path.

I personally know some case as you have mention; just two cases which just came in to my mind:

1. One sister I know knew that her rishta with her husband is because of her previous Karma. She was really into Sikhi and her husband gave her the option either to be "modern" or he will leave her. Our beautiful sister replied: Well, thats easy. I already took countless life; now I have the chance to become a dauther of Guru Gobind Singh ji. I will go for it. If you want to take the divorce step, fine. I will see this as a test from Satguru, if I am really ready for this priceless DAAT.

Today she is some much in chardi kala. Waheguru

1. The other sister - will call her better Mata ji:) - just told her husband that she will take Amrit and we wont have sex. After that day I will serve you as a brother; not as a husband. He thought she is joking, but she got blessed by Guru Sahib ji. He was really angry - still is as far as I know - and tried to ignore her. But they still live together in one house. She is over 50 just to tell you. But she also understood that she cant give her live away because of her husband rishta who wants to "enjoy live".

Today she is happy and ask everyday Guru sahib for more strength.

Karanjit Singh

answered 2013-07-03 05:54:06 -0500

katyar
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I go and meet Guni guani he write down my name for Amrit I am scared I go to gurdwaras every day I do path every day I know baba ji write down my for my sake I want to be a daughter of guru gobind singh ji I am scared but if I do not keep reheat but husband said this is totally up to me he not stopping me from Amrit I think you should have to prepare fully with your mind & husband before you do Amrit

answered 2013-07-06 17:50:41 -0500

Gurujis Daughter
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I have see this case - wife wanted to take Amrit but husband was a manmujh. So much trouble she had to go through. She would continuously tell about Guru ji, explain him about dharam. She herself really loved Waheguru ji. She once talked to an elderly Gursikh about it. He told her that if you yourselves become a strong Gursikh, Guru Sahib will change your life and make even your generations Gursikh. She then stopped focusing on making her husband close to Gursikhi and focused to make herself strong. She got so much Kirpa that her husband eventually saw her and himself started to move on this path. Now both wear kakars and ready for Amrit ^_^

Do ardaas, seva of doing sikhi parchaar in front of your husband and focus on yourself.

The reason behind this rule is that it is very very hard to have Gursikhi jeevan in your husband is a manmukh. It is very hard, think about it. True Gursikhi jeevan means no fashion, parties, eating outside, talking to manmukh friends, Amritvela. These are some examples.

answered 2013-07-07 07:49:56 -0500

Anonymous sikh
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I still would disagree that it is necessary for both spouse to be amritdhari, because its one thing to convince someone to take Amrit and another thing to force a person to take Amrit if they wish to maintain their married lifestyle. Amrit should be a personal decision and the non amritdhari spouse should not be forced into it.

answered 2015-03-02 12:20:19 -0500

GP
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It's not an easy decision and let us also not decide for anybody.If someone wants to be a Guruwala/wali let her do it, to accept or reject is the Guru's job. Our Guru is fair and all merciful, once you are an amritdhari I believe he is the guardian of your amrit.So he shall take care that your spouse comes around or give you a separate life within that house.One step is yours and the rest the Guru takes or so I hope.

answered 2017-07-25 00:57:16 -0500

Learning with Sikhi
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What if a guy is an amritdhari and has had sex before marriage he has committed Pesh and then must go and stand before the Panj Pyare right as he has broken one of the 4 rules meaning his Amrit is now broken and must take it again.

Does this now mean he could be refused Amrit by the panj pyare? will there be punishment for the person who committed this act of Kaam.