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Dating an Asian Women

asked 2013-04-30 15:01:57 -0600

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I met this very beautiful south Korean women and we started going out. I'm an amritdhari Sikh and she's willing to convert in order for us to get married. Is this okay?

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answered 2013-05-02 04:23:13 -0600

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Wonder sometimes as to what it means and how simple it is for someone to convert - or really something like 'to covert' means anything -- and that too for marriage

Personally I feel that I need to convert myself before anything else ...from a very very bad being to a little less bad

Trying to walk the path shown by Guru saheb was the way forward, amrit was supposed to help me be fixed to the commitment ....but poor me ...what did I make of it.... "1.You are Amritdhari, and should marry Amritdhari" and "it makes sense in many ways too" , "dating is not allowed..but yeah if she converts ,..its another matter" , "Yes if she is converting to Sikhism and will take Amrit , then there is no problem... "

Really wonder what would the reactions be had the question been the other way round - say someone was ready to convert from his sikh beliefs to that of the partner to get married - would it still be - there is no problem .... if you convert, there is no problem

Got to read a wonderful thought somedays back. Somebody was asked as to what is the common thing in all religions and the reply was : never ask somebody to do something you wont yourself prefer to be asked to do.

Questions like these really help. They provide an opportunity to introspect . Introspect because times may change for me also anytime because I am not the one in control....he is.

Now I am getting a hint of what it meant when Kabir saheb say : chaalae thae har milan ko beechai attakiou cheeth |96| (http://www.igurbani.com/?shabadid=5064&id=58235)

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answered 2013-05-01 22:15:01 -0600

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I think, it is not really the mariyaada

  1. You are Amritdhari, and should marry Amritdhari! (It makes sense in many ways and is maryaada)
  2. You shouldnt really be dating. we look at everyone like your sister and mother.
  3. Sangat, or your parents are to find a partner for you, not yourself. Remember what our father Guru Gobind Singh ji finds beautiful? :)

I would suggest you do Nitnem daily, naam simran, seva.. Let Guru ji guide you

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answered 2013-04-30 16:56:26 -0600

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Yes if she is converting to Sikhism and will take Amrit , then there is no problem... I hope you will live a happy life together. God bless you ... Waheguru Ji ka Khalsa , Waheguru Ji ki fateh .

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answered 2013-05-02 05:04:28 -0600

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Waheguru Ji ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji ki Fahte.

Ok Wait is she converting because of you or because she loves guru ji? taking amrit is a huge thing. its about giving your head and being forever loyal to your Guru. Is she up for that? If I'm going to every marry someone I want to be able to see the love that the Singh has for his guru showing on his face is that what you see on her face. Do you see the love she has for Waheguru as well as the love for you on her face. I'm not saying that you shoudn't marry her or she shouldn't convert its just that both you and her need to think things through. Tell her about the amasingness of the Guru and Sikhi she is sure to fall in love with Guru Ji then you don't have to worry about whether it is right for her to convert just to get married.

If she wants to convert just to get married with you then that is a very silly thing to do. Amrit isn't a little thing its a very important commitment and you have to truly be in love with waheguru to be able to stick to the rehat after you take amrit.

She needs to think things through. Sit her down and throughly explain what responsibilities she is taking on if she takes amrit and how big the commitment is.

Anyways this is just my personal thought I did not mean it to offend anyone. I'm sorry for my mistakes please feel free to correct me, thankyou.

Bhul chuk maaf karna ji

Waheguru Ji ka Khalsa Waheguru Ji ki Fahte.

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answered 2013-05-01 22:11:47 -0600

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dating is not allowed..but yeah if she converts ,..its another matter

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answered 2013-05-03 16:41:04 -0600

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I don't oppose the actual marriage; however, is her desire to you or should she have love of the Guru. Second, you are a AMRITDHARI, I only want you to know that her idea of conversion might be that she would become a MONA. Your marriage is perfectly fine, but, you must know these to things, you have 2 choices, one is to wait till she does Amrit Sanchar or second You will break up with her

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