Family problems please help me for god’s sake

I’ve been reluctant to reply just because I feel like this type of situation is so tricky to someone offer advice because I don’t want to inadvertently do harm. I think it is an amazing dream to go study. Is there any way of her possibly working even with her leg injury? I suspect that may also help her situation if she was able to get out of the house for a bit of the day and build up money. In order for your dad to really address his drinking problems he needs to realize there is a problem that needs to be addressed and the negative effects its had on his life, and find out why he drinks and what that drinking does for him (often its to cover some pain people have experienced). It does not sound like he is at that stage right now. I think you also need to think about your own wellness, and I understand your concerns about leaving your mom behind and they are legitimate. I don't know your dad or whether the violence would escalate in your absence. I don’t really have an answer for that. I hope that someone else is able to help you further. I just wanted to offer some words of support so you know you aren’t alone. We are here with you.

UPDATE: Hey, there wasn't enough room to leave a comment at the bottom. I will do my best to help. In places like where I live we have police, social workers and children’s help lines who would be able to assist, however I’m not so sure about India and I doubt you have those resources available. The other place people get help here is doctors, but I also don’t know if that’s possible for you or if you would have to pay. I would look into those options as there might be a place for you to call for help and support. Do you have any positive relatives, etc. people that you could stay with? It’s important for you to stay involved with these types of good relationships and friendships so you have supports for your own health while you are trying to figure things out. It would be nice to get involved at your local Gurdwara sahib and do sewa, and get to know the sangat there. They could be a source of major support. I know you must be scared and discouraged. None of this is your fault. You aren’t responsible for your dad’s behaviours. Of what I know, getting away is a difficult situation as it is usually the most high risk for an abusive person to exercise their control, and therefore the most dangerous time. It is important to make a safety plan for you and your mum in the case that the violence gets really dangerous for you and you need to leave. This would involve gathering ... (more)