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Feeling confused about life

asked 2018-02-26 01:42:52 -0500

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updated 2018-02-26 11:27:53 -0500

Guruka Singh gravatar image

I'm currently in university and doing fairly well but I don't sincerely enjoy it. My parents wish for me to go to law school but I don't feel that is my destiny - I don't feel like I'm meant to be a lawyer. But I don't have the heart to tell my parents that, as I feel a sort of obligation to them. They've been so good to their kids and I can't even imagine hurting them like that. I've felt like this for a while but I just kept putting it off and now that I'm 21, I feel like maybe I'm wasting time. If I do choose to leave school - then another problem awaits. I don't have the financial resources to invest in what I'm passionate about. It's very important to me to live a life that is fulfilling and to know that I'm living to my fullest destiny - that I'm doing what I'm meant to. And I don't know if law school is that. I really have no idea about what to do now because either way I'll be hurting someone - myself or my family.

A few years back I did mention that maybe I don't want to attend post-secondary but everyone in my family became super upset about it. Self-admittedly, I take my parents wishes very seriously. I do what they tell me to because I trust their instinct and direction, and thus it's very, very hard for me to propose something like this again. I sincerely lack the courage.

I just wish everything would fall into place without anyones feeling/faith being disturbed. Is there a specific prayer I could do to help?

By the way, I did take a Hukamnama concerning this and received Ang 467.

Any genuine advice is appreciated. Thank you

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answered 2018-02-26 19:16:01 -0500

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In my experience having an undergrad degree was just a stepping stone for me to be able to do what I wanted. When I look back it gave me more than education about specific things which you tend to forget anyways, it was more about maturing during that time and building a foundation from which to understand the world and a method of thinking. I didn’t love it but I do love what I’m doing now, so it was worth it. how far are you from graduation?

I think that you are right not to want to pursue law if your heart isn’t in it, and do not worry about disappointing your parents. It is worse to live a life that you feel trapped and unhappy in, in an area that was not your calling. I don’t think your parents ever want you to live a miserable life. Law school is hard enough but not to want it in the first place would make it difficult to make the sacrifices you need to complete it. If you see the trajectory is not good for you, then I think having an honest and respectful conversation with your parents is a good idea. But I think having a plan for yourself is probably a good idea before you have that conversation.

Sometimes people have to pursue schooling to get a decent job so that they have money to live and can do what they are passionate about on the side (if its not a stable career in itself). Depends on the situation. In which case finishing a degree isn’t a bad idea if you are towards the end (and it would be a compromise with your parents because you did do some post-secondary, even if you didn’t go into law and do another degree. Most parents realize education is important to getting good jobs these days so its usually more about that than anything else). Its hard to give specific advice without knowing what your field of passion is but we are given a passion for a reason. Just something to think about. So I don’t think you have to feel like this is an either/or, I think there is a gray range in between where you could pursue options that are okay for you and your family.

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answered 2018-02-26 11:23:38 -0500

Guruka Singh gravatar image

That's a very clear Hukamnama you received. It clearly says the answer is not to be found in books., but comes only by Guru Ji's kirpaa. You didn't say what it is that you are passionate about. What is it that you feel called to do?

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I can’t even put it into words what I feel called to do. But sincerely I just want to serve.

JustMe gravatar imageJustMe ( 2018-03-04 21:23:30 -0500 )edit

Then Guru Ji will show how how he wishes you to serve him and the Panth. Just relax and pay close attention. Let us know what you end up doing and how it works out for you. Blessings _/\_

Guruka Singh gravatar imageGuruka Singh ( 2018-03-07 10:53:35 -0500 )edit

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