Sat shiri akaal, Im the same girl who posted the question of me 14 masterbating, pulling hair and having thoughts of sex. Those answers that I received helped me. I thank everyone who responded to that question. Strong Kaur helped me a lot with love.
Ive been having strong feelings for my cousin. He is basically my second cousin ( My dads dads sisters sons son). He is 14 months older than me. Me and him share great grandparents. Ever since I met him ive been having a crush on him. I've known him for loads of months now. Only my dad knows about me crushing on him. Will it be wrong for me to love him? I've even been having thoughts of marrying him. But the only problem is that he is my thaya's son. There are signs that he has feeling for me but has not confessed yet. Does the Guru Granth Sahib say who we should love or not? I've been searching all over the Internet and I still can't find an answer.
Another question... I still don't understand why sex before marriage is wrong. What if you truly love the person and you feel that what ever your doing is right. I know if I do this after a few years this will be wrong for him especially because he and I will disrespect Guru Gobind Singh Ji without his consent (marriage). But I still don't understand why this is wrong. If I have sex with someone then marry him after, what is the problem of sex before marriage in that situation. If I'm in that situation what should I do? Should I have sex or leave it for after marriage?
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