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I am going to give you advice that is based on my personal experience.

First thing you need to know is that most people masturbate! Boys masturbate, girls masturbate, men, women, even some old people masturbate! When I was your age, I also used to masturbate 2-3 times a day!

The reason why I am telling you this is because I want you to realize that what you are feeling is perfectly normal. You are 16 years old, your body is going through a lot of changes, you are coming into manhood and you have these sexual feelings towards the opposite sex. Its all normal and every teen age boy and even girls go through this. Don't hate yourself for this. Realize that if you are having these feelings then most of your friends are having them as well. The problem is that no one will tell this to you like I just did because people think that its a bad think to discuss this "openly". The reason why I am being so open with you on this issue is that when I was going through my teenage years, I thought that I was doing paap by having these feelings and that I was the worst person in the whole world. I stared to look at my self very negatively and that effected my personality and my ability to be friendly with people. You don't need to beat yourself over this. You don't need to feel down or angry or lonely. Here is what I suggest you do:

Start by slowing down on your masturbation. Do it less and less until you get to a point where you are hardly doing it once a week. People may not like what I just said here but you can't just "Stop" overnight on this. Its a powerful feeling and you control it slowly and with patience.
Make yourself so busy that you don't have time to think about sexual stuff. I know, the thoughts come at the worst time and place but again your going to have to make an effort and it will go away slowly. Start a hobby, start writing a journal, learn about Sikh history, get involved in school. Whatever it is that you want to do, just make the effort to do it and keep your mind focused. Its a lot easier for me to lecture you on it but you have to try...
Start exercising or doing some sports or martial arts like gatka or something to get your body exhausted to the point that you don't have that energy in you to waste on masturbation. Trust me, even our Guru's told the singhs to keep the physical body in good shape and one reason was to keep the sexual feelings away.
Do what all the other post said before me, do ardaas and do path. I don't think that doing just path by itself will help but if you do all the things listed above together, you should see some improvement.

Please let me know if my advice was helpful or hurtful and forgive me if I was out of line to say the things that I said. I have been where you are now and I can totally relate to you so don't think for a second that you are the only one. You are very much like all of us. You are normal.