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Dear Guruka Ji,

I am so happy to hear response from you. It felt like Waheguru ji sent you to help me out in very tough situation of my life. My whole family is tensed since last month. I am very tensed; not able to focus on anything. I also started drinking Guruka Ji.

I don't know really know, if this love is a fantasy or real. I am only 27 years old; may be its a young age to think like how you are thinking.

But Guruka ji. I am at point of my life where I cannot imagine my life without my Girlfriend whom I already declare my soulmate in my heart, whom I deeply love. I eat, sleep and live with my girlfriend, even while I am away from her travelling for work. I make sure i make my Girlfriend sleep through Skype and always be there for her and suddenly I am forced to marry someone else just in 20 days by putting family pressure.

I am being emotionally tortured to love my wife whom I don't love or I never consider her as my wife ; to be Honest.

If I lose on my love today. I might not be able to live happy life. I will always live with this regret of not having courage to stand for my happiness and not appose the wrong decision my father put on me. I can also understand its also not my father fault. He might have thought, I will move on as he doesn't really understand amount of love between me and my girlfriend. My father thinks traditionally and is not open minded now. But my parents do realise now, that they should have marry me where I wanted. They can see all of us would have been so much happier.

Guruka ji, can I talk with my wife and peacefully ask her to terminate this relationship between us ? I want all the parties to be Happy in the end. Guruka ji do you think if I choose to leave my wife , will she be able to move on and find a right life partner for her who will love her without any conditions or regrets ? My question is 'Will she be alright after this divorce after merely 45 days' ?

I told my wife right after 1 day that I was not ready for this marriage and hence I don't think I can be in relationship with you. Guruka ji, I understand you might say I should have taken some strict actions before my wedding. I did make some efforts 8 days prior to my marriage but my parents said its too late now. They also said they will do suicide if i stop the wedding. But now I can understand, it was mostly emotional blackmail they were doing. So I was not able to think clearly that time. Too much family and society pressure.

Guruka Ji, I feel like I have made so many mistakes and waheguru ji will never forgive me for this ? What will society think when i divorce ?

Guruka ji, I hope waheguru ji can forgive me. But I have decided to divorce this wife, and then I might have chance to marry love of my life who is my Girlfriend or Live single through out my life.

I hope you can understand what my heart feels and suggest me something ?

Please advice.

Thanks, Harry