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Reading the above responses, I agree fully. I think sewa will most certainly help you in combination with prayer and meditation. Start going to the temple regularly. Tell your family that you are having some difficulty in your life and need support. You are looking to enhance the well being of your life as well as your children's life so they will be treated fairly. Please don't react in these types of situations. Respond appropriately by communicating your needs in the given situation.

If the situation is too tense, then say that. "I need some time, we are saying mean things to each other" "I don't like this" Gather your thoughts and then approach the person at a later time when things are calm and there is order. Figure out what you want to say. Listen to Gurbani. Mool mantra is good paat to listen to calm anxiety. Meditate on His name. Approach the person with grace. Bring out your good side and then begin to speak. Come from a place of compassion and understanding. Guruji will bring that goodness out of you. Trust in His name.

Spend quality time with children. After dinner, conduct prayer time or bible study with your children. Help them realize the importance of understanding the beautifulness and poetry of listening to paat and gurbani. Explain in English the meaning.

Get involved and be creative with your children, whether it be taking fun pictures with your kids - doing crafts and taking pictures of their creations - you can even frame them. When a holiday comes around - like Valentines Day you can do fun things with them. You want to bring out the best in them and make your children happy. Your children will appreciate these moments spent with you.

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh

Reading the above responses, I agree fully. I think sewa will most certainly help you in combination with prayer and meditation. Start going to the temple regularly. Tell your family that you are having some difficulty in your life and need support. You are looking to enhance the well being of your life as well as your children's life so they will be treated fairly. Please don't react in these types of situations. Respond appropriately by communicating your needs in the given situation.

If the situation is too tense, then say that. "I need some time, we are saying mean things to each other" "I don't like this" Gather your thoughts and then approach the person at a later time when things are calm and there is order. Figure out what you want to say. Listen to Gurbani. Mool mantra is good paat to listen to calm anxiety. Meditate on His name. Approach the person with grace. Bring out your good side and then begin to speak. Come from a place of compassion and understanding. Guruji will bring that goodness out of you. Trust in His name.

Spend quality time with children. After dinner, conduct prayer time or bible study with your children. Help them realize the importance of understanding the beautifulness and poetry of listening to paat and gurbani. Explain in English the meaning.

Get involved and be creative with your children, whether it be taking fun pictures with your kids - doing crafts and taking pictures of their creations - you can even frame them. When a holiday comes around - like Valentines Day you can do fun things with them. You want to bring out the best in them and make your children happy. Your children will appreciate these moments spent with you.

I want to add by saying, read the articles on here. Do your own research. Search this website and spend some serious time by yourself to understand how the links about certain topics can help you.

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh

Reading the above responses, I agree fully. I think sewa will most certainly help you in combination with prayer and meditation. Start going to the temple regularly. Tell your family that you are having some difficulty in your life and need support. You are looking to enhance the well being of your life as well as your children's life so they will be treated fairly. Please don't react in these types of situations. Respond appropriately by communicating your needs in the given situation.

If the situation is too tense, then say that. "I need some time, we are saying mean things to each other" "I don't like this" Gather your thoughts and then approach the person at a later time when things are calm and there is order. Figure out what you want to say. Listen to Gurbani. Mool mantra is good paat to listen to calm anxiety. Meditate on His name. Approach the person with grace. Bring out your good side and then begin to speak. Come from a place of compassion and understanding. Guruji will bring that goodness out of you. Trust in His name.

Spend quality time with children. After dinner, conduct prayer time or bible study with your children. Help them realize the importance of understanding the beautifulness and poetry of listening to paat and gurbani. Explain in English the meaning.

Get involved and be creative with your children, whether it be taking fun pictures with your kids - doing crafts and taking pictures of their creations - you can even frame them. When a holiday comes around - like Valentines Day you can do fun things with them. You want to bring out the best in them and make your children happy. Your children will appreciate these moments spent with you.

Another important aspect to this is by you spending quality time with your children, your mother in law will acknowledge that and see how great of a mother you are. Your maternal instincts will shine through. She will respect you, but you also give her respect in return. The relationship is mutual. There is no right or wrong person. It is all based on experience, but good morals and beliefs are above everything else. Please do some research about what the Guru Granth Sahib says about "motherly duties" toward her children. Something else to keep in mind, is you are your mother in laws child too.

I want to add by saying, read the articles on here. Do your own research. Search this website and spend some serious time by yourself to understand how the links about certain topics can help you.

Waheguru Ji Ka Khalsa, Waheguru Ji Ki Fateh