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Hi Penji,
I am so sorry to hear what you are going through and hope you are doing ok? I can relate somewhat to what you are going through and just want you to know that you are not alone.
Yes it can be very painful and often we start to treat ourselves with the same harshness that we experience from others. But try and stay strong and one thing I have learned from Guru Sahib is that a Sikh must never ever hurt another Sikh, not matter what, and slander (ninda) is worse than committing murder, so although these people call themselves Sikh, their actions are not representative of what Guru Gobind Singhs Sikh is.
When we join Gurujis army, we are often tested in many ways, try and see ourselves as a car being built, Guru Maharaj is the one who builds us, getting us ready for the seva he wants us to carry out. However, before he assigns us to certain tasks, he needs to build us in a way where we would be able to carry out the specific seva that he has designed for us, so we need to be high functioning. Now before he releases us, he would need to test each part in order to see if it is functioning correctly. If he notices there is some problems with the vehicle (us), he will know that it needs further repair or fine tuning. These tests are not created to hurt us, but to refine us. In Sikhi we are first tested, then we learn the lesson. When we make a mistake, try and see it that we've failed a particular test and ask Guru Maharaj to repair whatever had malfunctioned within us. Then leave it to him and just trust him. Our focus needs to be on Bani, Seva and Simran. The people who are gossiping, are also being tested, one of the greatest test for a Sikh is when we are shown a persons weaknesses. When this happens, Guru observes his Sikh very carefully, he will check to see if they have learned anything. Because we read baani, however how much of it gets absorbed? Thats what Guru Checks. If the Sikh, upon learning of a person's mistakes or wrongdoings, becomes judgmental and has thoughts or acts in a way to harm or punish the person, then know they have failed that particular test quite miserably. We have seen time and again, that a Sikh must follow the principle of "dekh ke andit kita" bur unfortunately, desis are not very good at this. So try and see your situation as a big test for you and those around you. Be careful not to judge those who are gossiping and slandering, instead do a small prayer that Guruji guides them. Now for you, a pangti that has been going through my mind is the following one, which you can sing, it will give you a lot of peace and strengthen your faith and relationship with Guru Maharaj:
Raam Naam Gun Gaaye le Meeta Sing the Glorious praises of the Lords name, O dear Friend Har Simrath teri Laaj rahe Remembering the Lord in Meditation, your Honour shall be Saved Har Simrath Jam kach na kahe Remembering the Lord in Meditation, the Messenger of Death will not touch you
Heres a link to the shabad sung beuatifully: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I69iARCzFM0 - or just go onto youtube and type in - Raam Naam Gun Gaye Bhai Mukhtar Singh Jee
Also something else that might help is the following video (its very uplifting): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z_lp6h2kf8I - or Go to Youtube and type in - Pick Me Apart Spoken Word by Trent Shelton
Hope this helps?
Take Care, and remember that Guru Loves You xx
Fateh Ji
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Hi Penji,
I am so sorry to hear what you are going through and hope you are doing ok? I can relate somewhat to what you are going through and just want you to know that you are not alone.
Yes it can be very painful and often we start to treat ourselves with the same harshness that we experience from others. But try and stay strong and one thing I have learned from Guru Sahib is that a Sikh must never ever hurt another Sikh, not matter what, and slander (ninda) is worse than committing murder, so although these people call themselves Sikh, their actions are not representative of what Guru Gobind Singhs Sikh is.
When we join Gurujis army, we are often tested in many ways, try and see ourselves as a car being built, Guru Maharaj is the one who builds us, getting us ready for the seva he wants us to carry out. However, before he assigns us to certain tasks, he needs to build us in a way where we would be able to carry out the specific seva that he has designed for us, so we need to be high functioning. Now before he releases us, he would need to test each part in order to see if it is functioning correctly. If he notices there is some problems with the vehicle (us), he will know that it needs further repair or fine tuning.
These tests are not created to hurt us, but to refine us. In Sikhi we are first tested, then we learn the lesson. When we make a mistake, try and see it that we've failed a particular test and ask Guru Maharaj to repair whatever had malfunctioned within us. Then leave it to him and just trust him. Our focus needs to be on Bani, Seva and Simran.
The people who are gossiping, are also being tested, one of the greatest test for a Sikh is when we are shown a persons weaknesses. When this happens, Guru observes his Sikh very carefully, he will check to see if they have learned anything. Because we read baani, however how much of it gets absorbed? Thats what Guru Checks. If the Sikh, upon learning of a person's mistakes or wrongdoings, becomes judgmental and has thoughts or acts in a way to harm or punish the person, then know they have failed that particular test quite miserably.
We have seen time and again, that a Sikh must follow the principle of "dekh ke andit kita" bur buT unfortunately, desis are not very good at this.
So try and see your situation as a big test for you and those around you. Be careful not to judge those who are gossiping and slandering, instead do a small prayer that Guruji guides them.
Now for you, a pangti that has been going through my mind is the following one, which you can sing, it will give you a lot of peace and strengthen your faith and relationship with Guru Maharaj:
Raam Naam Gun Gaaye le Meeta
Sing the Glorious praises of the Lords name, O dear Friend
Friend
Har Simrath teri Laaj rahe
rahe
Remembering the Lord in Meditation, your Honour shall be Saved
Saved
Har Simrath Jam kach na kahe
kahe
Remembering the Lord in Meditation, the Messenger of Death will not touch you
Heres a link to the shabad sung beuatifully: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=I69iARCzFM0 - or just go onto youtube and type in - Raam Naam Gun Gaye Bhai Mukhtar Singh Jee
Also something else that might help is the following video (its very uplifting): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=z_lp6h2kf8I - or Go to Youtube and type in - Pick Me Apart Spoken Word by Trent Shelton
Hope this helps?
Take Care, and remember that Guru Loves You xx
Fateh Ji